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5 Reasons Relationships May Fail

Relationships are not easy. They take a lot of work from both people in the relationship. No one knows if a relationship will work out. There is no way to define the success the relationship may have. What people prioritize, within a relationship, depends on the persons values, and where they live. Here are 5 main reasons why relationships usually fail. 

10 Steps to Help Couples Communicate Effectively

Communication can make or break a relationship. According to Suzanne Degges- White PH.D, "In a perfect world, we would all learn early that “give and take” communication can be much more productive than trying to unilaterally stake claims without taking others’ feedback into consideration". In order to communicate effectively with your partner, it is important to be able to have discussions with each other.

10 Tips to Emotionally Engage Your Partner

One of the most important things in a relationship is that both people are emotionally engaged. If one person is not emotionally available, it will make it very difficult for the relationship to work. Here are some tips on how you can engage with your partner emotionally. 

7 Problems Every Couple Faces According to Therapist's

When a relationship first starts, there are usually very few problems. However as time goes on and you learn more about a person, what you like and don't like, this is when problems can arise. Over time you become more comfortable with one another, and you are more comfortable approaching each other about certain issue. According to therapists, these are the top problems every couple faces at some point in the relationship:

How to Make the Changes You Want in Your Life

There’s a quote by the famous artist Andy Warhol. He said, “They always say time changes things, but you actually have to change them yourself.”  And this is true – especially with the changes that are required in recovery from addiction. Any significant life change requires individual effort. If you want to transform your life from unmanageable to manageable, from chaotic to peaceful, from unbalanced to healthy, there are some things you’ll have to do differently.

8 Relationship Problems You Just Can't Fix

In every relationship, there are going to be problems. Some problems can be worked out between the 2 people in the relationship. There are some other problems that sometimes just can't be fixed. Some marriage therapist have listed the problems they've seen within a relationship that can not be fixed. 

What is your conflict management style?

We all deal with conflict differently. Some people are afraid of confrontation and therefore avoid it entirely. Others charge right in and make a decision for everyone involved whether it's a healthy one or not. At the same time, there are others who are too accommodating in order to resolve it. Conflict can be hard for some people. There are both healthy and unhealthy ways of managing conflict too. The following is a list of the various conflict management styles and a description of each:

11 Tips to Help Manage Anxiety

Stress and anxiety are a normal part of life. As humans, we feel anxious because that is the way our body tells us to fear something. However, some people feel anxiety when there is nothing to be feared. This is when anxiety can start to affect your daily life. This is also when it might be time to look for some help to deal with the anxiety. Therese J. Borchard, the Associate Editor for Psych Central, has some tips to manage that unwanted anxiety. 

13 Signs You Need to Visit a Marriage Counselor

The idea most people grow up with about marriage, is that it's supposed to be a fairy tale. However, most people tend to forget that marriage actually takes a lot of work and it's not always a perfect. During a marriage there may come a time when you may need to see a marriage counselor. Some problems are easy enough to fix on your own, and others need the help of a counselor. Debra Smouse, a contributor writer for the Huffington Post, has a list of signs that may mean you need to see a marriage counselor:

7 Steps to Breaking Free of a Controlling Partner

Knowing if you have a controlling partner can be difficult to know when you are the one in the relationship. The people who usually notice first are friends and family. Hearing that your partner is controlling may not be the easiest thing to digest. Being in a relationship with someone who is controlling can be dangerous. If you begin to realize that your partner is controlling here are some steps to take to break free of a controlling partner.